Dating someone emotionally unavailable gay
Either way — I want connection, intimacy, a real relationship that has opportunity, willingness…. The man I mentioned above, who lives in the same town. I am in the process of painful extraction from a man I deeply love who has shown all these signs after luring me with wonderful two way connection for the first 18months. It took counselling, anti-depressants and iron will to start contact withdrawal from such an addictive situation.
A work in progress. Only week 2, but getting there! I had a long distance relationship with a guy for a few months and in the beginning it was lovely. We opened up to each other about our lives and said we both wanted something real at that point. Then, out of the blue, he starts texting back hours later and stopped calling as often.
He got upset and called me a stalker when I told him that I found his fb page, and asked him about 2 girls who were arguing over him on there a few months before we started talking.. He later said everything was fine between us BUT was showing less intrest by not getting telling me about his day to day life or really anything in general.. Im confused and hurt bc my feelings were real.
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He just checked out as you say.. I broke it off yesterday.. But eondering did I do the wrong thing.. Was it me?? How are you doing now? I still regret breaking it off because maybe he just needed me to be more patient with him? It seems to me that nobody cares about the person on the receiving end of this behaviour. One year of this you start to question your own mind, five years on you will definitely believe you are a bad person.
These men have help by the way, family members, the family who abuse together stay together. If you have a child to a man like this, your child will grow up feeling inadequate no matter what you do to try and change things. Yes it seems exciting at first, the thrill of never truly knowing what he will do next, that fades with time, especially when you try to communicate and he packs his things, stalks out if the door, leaving you with a baby alone, feeling like nothing you do is right.
Let me warn you that it will continue until you become emotionally shut down, suffering with PTSD. People casually say leave him but you remain trapped by your own empathy, you feel sorry for him! I should add to that as the years pass, your physical health will decline, all that stress, constantly on edge, constantly in flight mode, it will destroy your health, your career, your self esteem, anything that was one YOU! Superficial, fake? This man can go from screaming in your face to answering the phone in a happy jolly amiable persona. You will start to hate him.
If you try to leave you find out that the ground has been already set, the dirty work of alienating you from everybody has been done. Just opening the front door becomes a challenge, you feel unworthy, ugly. So, my advice to you is to get as far away as possible, let him sort out his own problems, if you try to help him it will lead to your demise.
Happiness will become a memory if you go down this path. What you have written is absolutely beautiful and so very true.
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I divorced a man like that 14 years ago. I am still trying to erase his memories. I wish you the very best and hope somehow someone comes and rescue you or you find the strength to start again. After reading your article, my ex husband was exactly like that. One day I left. But did not stop crying for the next 10 years. I hope you start to walk. When you get the chance RUN!!! Save what part of your life you still have living the beautiful and selfless you!!! OMG, you have just described the last 5 years of my life. That man hurt and destroyed my mental and emotional state of mind.
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He has moved on to someone else just like I never ever existed. Crazy part us my heart tells me I still love him, but my head knows it is best ti o stay away. At the age of 57 i went through it for 5 years…. It took me by surprise.
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I mean he actually came back each time ive lost count. False promises is in their nature. Blame games. Its unreal. Then says its a man thing. Its about immature narc men i think who destroys our selfworth and I allowed this as I kept going back. The only way i realised what was going on was when one of the girls he cheated me with told me. Its been six months now, ive sort of met someone else and the difference is massive. I think we as women should not allow this behavior at all at the very first sight of them pulling the ignore fase we should stop all.
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As grown mature people this emotional unavailable men is unacceptable as it really destroys the partner involved. I will probably not recover from this experience as it knocked me hard. But I learned and I learned a hard lesson. As nothing that is true will ever come out of their mouths ever. Can a 54 yr old man who has been alone over 15 years and seems to enjoy hanging out with his guy friends more, ever be capable of marriage with me and live with me and two children? He does seem to slowly be opening up, but his life is still so compartmentalized.
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Can this change? I know he loves me very much. When I try to picture him living with me and my two young children, I see it totally stressing him out and it scares me. My boyfriend does not work, and spends most of his time at home online talking to friends both males and females. He has withdrawn from me, and he barely texts me anymore. Only online female friends…. What should I supposed to do now?
Stop chasing him. If he truly cares for you, he will find a way. The prevalent narrative is that they have magical emotional intelligence because of their lady parts and you are incapable of understanding their intuitive proclivity for emotional soothsaying, even in the face of logic and reasoning to the contrary. I agree that emotionally unavailable men need help but they first have to acknowledge they have a problem and decide if they want to work on changing it.
And that goes for both men and women. You say you are in a relationship now for 8 years with 2 kids. I share all of that in this free class: Try thinking of men as primitive apes for a second or just as cavemen. Who do you think has a higher chance of survival: And btw. Instead of trying social bonding like with fellow females, try talking to him about objective, goal oriented topics without any mention of gossip or emotions.