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Robin decided he would come out, in the hope it would show Dom that it didn't have to be a nightmare. Simon was 17 when his hitherto straight best friend made a move on him. He would always tell me he wasn't like me, and couldn't be, because he 'had his whole future ahead of him'. The idea that my future was irrelevant and that admitting he was with me would ruin his made me feel worthless and I ended up battling depression for years.

Gay men aren't toys to be practised on. Bisexuality was often the only concession to less binary labels, but is and was often a source of derision among straight and gay people alike, characterised by accusations of greed or indecision. The closest anyone got for many years was the advent of metrosexuals — basically straight men who used moisturiser and took longer than five minutes to get ready in the morning — and drunk straight women getting off with each other for a dare.

And even these were very much about straight people play-acting than any serious comment on evolving sexuality. Everybody else had to stay in lane, their labels hanging over them. A sign things could be changing, for the better, are men who are comfortable with their status as a man who sleeps with men, and refuse to be bound by labels.

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Years after his straight-guy experience at uni, Robin somehow once again found himself in the middle of another heterosexual man's coming-out story. At first Robin assumed this was just an ego boost, but when Luke battled depression and none of his female flings were on the scene, Robin found himself as primary source of care and comfort, and feelings grew from there. And I thought that was adorable, and sensible, and kind of romantic.

While some men may both have the strength of character and also the front — and it takes plenty of that, be under no illusion — to reject these labels and still be open, it should be said that labels can sometimes facilitate this. All the time, and not too far away from us, LGBT people are fighting for the right to call themselves LGBT, but for your right to define yourself however you choose — gay, straight, fluid, curious.

Just as out gay men have a duty to protect themselves from others forcing their own will upon them, maybe those refusing to conform should acknowledge their sacrifice and honour them by supporting the gay and bi brothers who keep their secrets. In private, in public, wherever. Meet the most advance sex robots ever and the men who fall in love with them. By Laura Rutkowski. By Sarah Manavis. From foursomes to judging those who have sex on a first date By Justin Myers, The Guyliner.

SQ youths - For a certain subset SQ of gays? Only zones in red designate sex work as illegal. I cringe when I see a couple consisting of an unattractive older person and a younger self-consciously attractive younger person and they act as if they are deeply in love.

Also, being in the closet is going to make things harder, unless the venue you are using is a discreet one already. But in addition to the wonderfully rational answer below, here is my 2 cents. Also, make yourself attractive. Appearance is a little bit of it, obviously hook-up culture but I mean as a personality. Make them want you. Oh, be flexible. Your health and the health of your partner is always important.

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Be honest about your age. I met up with one guy, whose age was not displayed on the profile, and I saw a body photo, but in person he looked different because he had slimmed down and had grown a bit older. I was turned off then and there. On the flip side, there are a couple of guys on Scruff who are over 60, in good shape, who I would definitely like to try it with!

Also, one more thing. Younger guys are more likely to be emotionally vulnerable. Maybe they have never had a gay friend before. Maybe they are still a virgin.

Maybe they have only valued for their sexual ability. Either way, there probably is going to be fear, isolation, desire for validation and affirmation.

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Be the one to give that validation. Might find a regular hook-up buddy in the process. Younger guys also want to live. What, as a 20 yr old something new on the scene, you would NOT want to happen to yourself. Do the opposite. And remember that creepy for everyone is different. He stays just a short distance from my home so we often saw each other, and on a few occasions we sat and had a beer together.

I never once made a move because I just assumed he was a straight guy just being friendly. He often came around for a swim and that was it.

Then one night when I was in the pool enjoying a skinny dip, he showed up and asked if it is okay for him to have a swim as well. I said yes of course he can but asked him if you could get a beer out of the fridge for me, and one for himself if he wanted one. A few minutes later he was in the pool with me, standing by the side having some beer. After a few minutes he swam away, and then swam back to where I was standing, but he was swimming underwater.

When he reached me, it was clear that he was trying have a look at my package.

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He surfaced with a big grin on his face and then had a second look. Long story short, he kept looking; I ended up getting hard; he asked if he can have a feel; I agreed; he stripped; I had a feel of his, and we have been pleasuring each other regularly ever since. So, in my case, it was the young guy who hooked up with me, the older guy. Yes You have to let them know you are gay first and they have to be interested in older men.

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Its best to find a boy that is unexperienced and to offer to take him out, or to show him everything you know about hooking up with others. The key is to build trust and really care about him as a person. If he decides not to date and is just down to hookup every once in a while give him what he asks for. Don't get weird and start stalking him. Just let him come to you. Age is just a number. I just hooked up with a boy 2 nights ago.

But was partying on meth and couldn't get an erection. It was kind of embarrassing, but I taught him how to use an enema, and kissed him and fingerbanged him and he slept in my arms tightly all night then got up in the morning and went to school. Not b4 giving me a blow job before he left. At first it seemed like he wanted a relationship, then I heard from his friend that he was only down to hook up sometimes.

I understand that the age difference doesnt set well with some of this kid's friends.