Gay dating apps mental health

It can be damaging to guys who don't want to feel the brunt of rejection and go on there needing or wanting validation only to be turned down or insulted because of their body, personality, looks, size. But it is what is unfortunately. I didn't read the entire article, but I got the jest of it. I don't think hook up apps are necessarily a bad thing. I feel like it's basically like walking into a club and meeting someone there and going home with them.

It's essentially the same thing, just the virtual form. Grindr has always been a hot mess, and that's why it isn't on my phone. Like others have stated, I think it's not so much the app itself, but the people using it. I don't think Grindr should be held personally responsible. The people who use it make the app, not the other way around.

I don't think Grindr is all bad. I've had a few really great connections and relationships in college thanks to that app, when I was in a smaller town where there wasn't a ton of LGBTQ events etc. Says the gay gaga stan. Jk love you lol. Everyone has their preferences with Age, race, body type and so on.

Everyone is different so everyone is looking for different types of people they want to hook up with. If the guy you are really attracted to does not respond, then move on. I moved on and I stopped caring.

As much as I'd like to add some excitement to my life, I can't bring myself to download Grindr because I know that all the rejection and image-related judgement wouldn't be good for me I don't know much about Grindr, but what I do know is that it's super judgemental. But at the same time, I don't know how the f. You can try OKCupid! I met awesome people there and isn't even remotely close to the sleaziness of other apps.

Bios are everything, honestly, give it a try. Our culture claims to be so inclusive but is incredibly divisive -- especially long binary lines.

I understand why we fought to be included in the mainstream but it did us some damage that we have to repair to include trans, queer, intersex, etc. And it's all addictive as this cult site. For example, psychological research demonstrates that a bit of dopamine that feel good chemical goes off every time we see a notification on social media. So we keep going back for more of that good feel.

But, in a world with a variety of culture where gay people are still often ostracized, it makes sense that we would resort to a somewhat private, exclusive platform to meet one another. Ugh, I just don't know what to say on such a loaded topic. It just all seems so toxic for one's mental health. Fellow GGD Monster you are, sadly, not alone. I had long hair for a couple of years and I also received messages that told me to cut it "you would look better--I'm not trying to be rude" or was objectified, sexualized or categorized as feminine for having longer hair.

And they hadn't even met me yet! As opposed to judging a book by its cover. I think you've had a self-photo up before and your hair is glorious! Just remember that famous track about living as free as your hair on BTW. Thanks for sharing your encounter with that part of dating apps. Grindr is a pretty toxic app. I find myself needing a break every now and then. It's way too easy to be an asshole!

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You need to be a member in order to leave a comment. Sign up for a new account. It's easy! Already have an account? Sign in here. Sign In Remember me Not recommended on shared computers. Sign in anonymously. I personally advise guys not to attempt Grindr app. Have you seen the news some guys pretended homos, ended up beating up by straights talking about baits.

Rapes and wallet-stealing are on the rise. Guys keep pointing to Grindr. Recently, some crazy opposents faked their profiles, got a city councilman to hook, exchanged photos. Next day, photos were exposed to a city, talking about the revenge porns. Enough to damage, hurt, and violate a human being. Alright, I am aware that no one gives a crap about my comments. Enough said.

My personal advise to guys to stay away from Grindr and try other apps… Scruff is good, and other apps, they appear to be real with real men. Is it a symptom or a Cause. I think it correlates to how much time you spend on it. Less drama and all. The rest is about the weight loss if you want say a skinny twink. All good points. This is a BS article ascribing easy gay sex as the cause of the negative effects of an ap. It was not a study, but a survey which found that although it had the most negative feelings, it was comparable to candycrush and facebook.

The issue appears more that the amount of time spent on an app leads to discontent. They reached out to him. So right there you are getting a jaded group of people. People who want to reachout and complain on grindr. Please log in to add your comment Need an account? Search for: Get Queerty Daily Subscribe to Queerty for a daily dose of life apps dating stories and more. Mandrake Valid and intriguing point! ChrisK Yep. Curtis Well said…. Heywood Jablowme Yes. Candy Crush makes me feel dead inside!

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