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Read these success stories and weep, y'all. While most competing sites have made upgrades and tried to keep up with social media or internet trends, eharmony has maintained a pretty consistent look and message. This unchanging thing is both good in bad — but we'll get into that later. We'll touch on this later, but eharmony doesn't offer same sex matching.

Like, if you say that you're a woman, it won't even let you click on "seeking women.

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The questionnaire does take some time around half an hour , so don't expect to get this done and find a date within the hour. The questions are pretty standard and are similar to what most other in-depth dating sites will ask. You'll give yourself a rating on prompts like "I'm an honest partner," with sliding scale choices like "This describes me well," to "Doesn't describe me at all. Who wants to answer "Are you emotionally stable? Admitting that you have problems in a certain area is key to eharmony matching you with someone who complements you.

Unless people have an extremely realistic sense of self, I feel like these answers just can't be telling.

Everyone would love to rate themselves the highest on patience and romantic and the lowest on selfishness, but if these people were perfect and had zero problems in relationships, they wouldn't need online dating in the first place. Just remember that the right person will except your quirks and flaws. As much as you'd like to lie to feel better about yourself, you know deep down that's not the way to a healthy relationship.

And finding someone who makes up for what you lack is better in the long run, even if it's hard to come to terms with at times. I'd definitely recommend it. Now, the caveat is that you need to be painfully honest on their questionnaire if you want good results. Most of my friends whom this hasn't worked for are quite delusional about themselves and, thus, don't find very good matches.

Just be honest about your communication skills, or your next relationship is gonna look like this:. Once the algorithm has compiled your self-ranked answers, you'll get to see your main page and matches for the day. Having a lot of features can be fun, but not when there are notifications popping up for things you didn't even know existed. A calming color scheme and minimalistic layout is the way to go, and eharmony nailed it. You even have the option to put your favorite TV shows, music, sports, and more on your profile, and I really appreciated that they allow your personality to be the main focus.

That's because eharmony has another surprise waiting for you, and it comes in the form of, wait for it, questions that are actually fun to answer. These are questions that potential matches can see your answers to and serve as a fun conversation starter or an easy way to tell if you would get along. They'll be anything from "Do dogs go to heaven? I do have one bone to pick with eharmony during these profile questions, though: They served me questions about church and God when I specifically said I wasn't religious.

Questions like these are of course perfect for users who marked themselves as Christian — but can we off-putting for those who aren't. Fnding the right one takes time. Unless your life is eerily similar to a rom com, weeding out all of the non-compatible ones may take a few weeks — or months. It may get frustrating, but "slow and steady wins the race" is the mindset to have here. If it seems to be taking a while, that doesn't mean it's never gonna work — that's how it is for everyone. Something unique about eharmony and another reason why the process takes so long is that there's no search feature.

At all. Unlike Match, it won't even let you browse a list of who's nearby outside of the matches they've picked for you. Each day, you'll get a new batch of matches, which is fine if you've made good decisions in the past, but bad if one day's batch happens to be full of people you're not interested in. I appreciate their dedication to not wanting me to waste time on people I'm not compatible with, but I wish there was a bit of leeway. On the bright side, matches you do get are very likely to want to talk to you, as you're clearly compatible and have things in common — and you won't be getting random "heys" from a million random people that you'd never talk to.

You don't have to match with someone to talk to them, though, and you'll notice this when names and faces you've never seen before end up in your inbox. In the message section, you can think of your own opening line, send a pre-made icebreaker question if you're not smooth on your own , or simply send a smile, which is like poking on Facebook.

And remember: That is how my five year old cousins iMessage me on their parents' iPad. Pro tip: Turn off your email notifications immediately, or you will get bombarded any time someone likes your photo. With a free account, you can answer all of the personality questions, make a profile, and see your matches. That's it. You can't talk to anyone.

My issue isn't with the free feature, it's with the price of the paid membership. As a general rule, membership prices get lower the longer your commitment to the site is. Which makes sense, because a strong connection probably won't magically appear in just one month. I guess it's an easy way to know that most potential matches would be serious, as I highly doubt someone just looking for a hookup wants to drop this much money on a one night stand. And eharmony has that guarantee, remember? If you're not satisfied in three months, they'll give you three months for free.

They're basically saying that your money will be worth it because you'll find someone in three months, or you'll get an extra three months to find someone without dropping a cent. If you cry at episodes of The Bachelor , eharmony might be the place for you. I won't get all mushy on you guys, but I will say that you can tell that your matches are looking for something serious by the way they talk to you. Dating online and opening up to strangers takes courage, and users wouldn't be doing that if they were looking for anything other than the real deal.

Obviously eharmony isn't the only dating site used to find a spouse, but it is pretty much the only site that is specifically dedicated to long-term relationships, and pretty much the only site that offers any type of stats on the marriages they're responsible for. When you think of eharmony, you think of marriage. And so does everyone else — that's the point. Though some of their profile building is on the old-fashioned side, I have to hand it to their web developers: